Maturing?

[dEAR_cHILD]

So after a heart to heart with one of my good friends she said something that really stuck to me and bothered me a bit so I wanted to see what you guys thought.

We talked about how we would often play games together and now we hardly ever consider even offering to show a new video game, her reason was that now she had a full time job and needed to mature. She said you can't be adult like, and still do childish things, because if you aren't careful it will still show that you havent quite matured. So in order to be an adult you had to change and get involved in adult things, instead of wasting time with kiddish antics. But this isnt something that I believe and part of me wonders if the reason I'm still arguing with myself is because, to put it simply, I want to rationalize my wants, Like a child.

Your thoughts?

[Dr Frook]

So after a heart to heart with one of my good friends she said something that really stuck to me and bothered me a bit so I wanted to see what you guys thought.

We talked about how we would often play games together and now we hardly ever consider even offering to show a new video game, her reason was that now she had a full time job and needed to mature. She said you can't be adult like, and still do childish things, because if you aren't careful it will still show that you havent quite matured. So in order to be an adult you had to change and get involved in adult things, instead of wasting time with kiddish antics. But this isnt something that I believe and part of me wonders if the reason I'm still arguing with myself is because, to put it simply, I want to rationalize my wants, Like a child.

Your thoughts?

Your friend sounds like someone who wants to be a pretend adult. Being an adult is being whatever comes naturally to you. Having fun with games or whatever does not make you childish, it's just something you do for fun. Getting involved in 'adult' things just sounds silly. Do as you like, but there is no need to change what you enjoy doing just because you're older. That just sounds plain silly.

[Shadowstar1922]

So after a heart to heart with one of my good friends she said something that really stuck to me and bothered me a bit so I wanted to see what you guys thought.

We talked about how we would often play games together and now we hardly ever consider even offering to show a new video game, her reason was that now she had a full time job and needed to mature. She said you can't be adult like, and still do childish things, because if you aren't careful it will still show that you havent quite matured. So in order to be an adult you had to change and get involved in adult things, instead of wasting time with kiddish antics. But this isnt something that I believe and part of me wonders if the reason I'm still arguing with myself is because, to put it simply, I want to rationalize my wants, Like a child.

Your thoughts?

Your friend sounds like someone who wants to be a pretend adult. Being an adult is being whatever comes naturally to you. Having fun with games or whatever does not make you childish, it's just something you do for fun. Getting involved in 'adult' things just sounds silly. Do as you like, but there is no need to change what you enjoy doing just because you're older. That just sounds plain silly.

I agree with Frook completely.

Maturity is just not being naive, looking things at a logical and reasonable approach, and letting go of your earlier ideas, like Santa Claus being real, or mom ate your baby brother or sister.

But, maturity doesn't determine your pleasure activities, like watching anime, playing video games, or doing "silly and eccentric activities" such as creative art or music.

Besides, I don't know why terms such as maturity, and childish have to be so point on and exact, and everything done in life must be categorized as both.

To me, they are generalized terms used to describe those of older and younger generation.

[Nudu]

my opinion is that being an adult means that u should stop playing games and blah blah... maturing is just a point in life where u realize what is the reality and what is not... it doesnt matter u play video games... to be an adult..just accept yourself for being you and not pretending... respect yourself... make choices... live ur life