Should I tell my family I'm bi?

[Walking Zombee]

Like, should I? It's been in the back of my head for months, just, mocking me. I want to tell them because it would take a huge weight of my chest, but I don't want to tell them because I might be shunned or something and be forced to live in the shed. My brother had to be in the shed for 3 weeks, all because he broke a vase, I'm scared about what would happen to me, because my parents aren't that big on homo/bisexuality. I'm wondering what you guys could say because some of you probably had this same problem and got over it somehow, and if I should tell them, how? Just blurt it out or like, get them in a good mood first?
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Sorry if this isn't like, super duper worldwide crisis serious, but, I just wanted to get it out there.

[Shadowstar1922]

First, you should find out if they are,

a) Extremely religious, and
b) if they accept homosexuality or not.

If they accept gays openly and give a nice answer then wait a couple days and tell them that you're bisexual. Be serious. And go off saying I know you might not accepts gays or bi people but I am your daughter/son and I love you and you love me and this is who I am. Stuff like that. Guilt trip em.

You never know really. I have some friends who had homophobic parents but when their kids came out, they realized it was natural and alright and they accepted their kids and gays in general. It's a hard struggle to face really, but there is a lot of pro-gay people on here who can support you and help you!

I came out as bisexual to my family, and openly said i preferred men and they accepted it, but they kept questioning it because I was like 11 or 12 at the time. They would say I'm gay and that I need to just stop calling myself bisexual or that I was too young. Even though my aunt is gay and my great uncle is gay too and they were very offended.

They stopped asking questions after I asked them why haven't they questioned my brother's heterosexuality. At the time he was just 1 year older then me and he was very open about calling hot girls out on the TV n stuff.

[Tycoon]

i recently told my mum I'm asexual and in hindsight it was easy enough although i have been struggling with that for a long time.. If one parent accepts it more, or one of your siblings accepts it most, start by telling them... and then tell the next accepting person. Because, if the least accepting person finds that the rest of the family is okay with it, then they'll be more likely to accept it. and the more accepting people are less likely to be influenced.

does that make sense? i mean, just tell them when you feel comfortable. with me, it just came in conversation at an appropriate topic.

everyone's experience is different, though

[Boxorino]

my mom found out on accident that i liked girls and she's super religious and pissed so now she's making me read this book called 'is god anti-gay?' and i don't want to read it because it's not going to make me change my sexuality even though that's what she wants. all that it's going to do is rue that my mom doesn't love me enough to just accept me for what i am.

[The Divine Potato]

my mom found out on accident that i liked girls and she's super religious and pissed so now she's making me read this book called 'is god anti-gay?' and i don't want to read it because it's not going to make me change my sexuality even though that's what she wants. all that it's going to do is rue that my mom doesn't love me enough to just accept me for what i am.

I have a friend in the exact same situation you are in.

[Walking Zombee]

Well, I told my mom first, and she was shocked at first, but then said 'that explains alot', which is weird because I don't think I've done anything that's made me look bisexual. Because my parents are on like, different levels of religiousness, and my dad is way up, I'm either going to wait a day or two to tell him or have my mom tell him, and thanks for the help guys, I needed that courage boost.

[Shadowstar1922]

Well, I told my mom first, and she was shocked at first, but then said 'that explains alot', which is weird because I don't think I've done anything that's made me look bisexual. Because my parents are on like, different levels of religiousness, and my dad is way up, I'm either going to wait a day or two to tell him or have my mom tell him, and thanks for the help guys, I needed that courage boost.

Was your mother okay with it?

[Shadowstar1922]

my mom found out on accident that i liked girls and she's super religious and pissed so now she's making me read this book called 'is god anti-gay?' and i don't want to read it because it's not going to make me change my sexuality even though that's what she wants. all that it's going to do is rue that my mom doesn't love me enough to just accept me for what i am.

Tell her if she is so religious and so righteous and so confident that God hates gays, her if God controls everything and that everything happens for a reason.

She'll obviously say yes.

Then say, "Well then God made me like this, so there is a reason that I like girls."

And then she'll be frustrated, and might make a comment, then cut her off and say,

"Why would God create sin, and make me like this, knowing I'm going to hell? Wouldn't that mean God intentionally wanted me to go to hell and live a life of sin? I thought God loved all his creations?'

Sooner or later she'll realize that the Bible was written in a completely different era and if God does exist, it wouldn't have such backward opinions on things that don't even matter.

If this is too extreme, just quote Jesus and Mohammad. Two key and intelligent and accepting prophets of the Judeo-Christian God. Though, focus more on Jesus since American Christians seem to kind of not like Mohammad for some odd reason.

[Walking Zombee]

Was your mother okay with it?

She's still like, in shock but I haven't talked to her after that yet.

[Shadowstar1922]

Was your mother okay with it?

She's still like, in shock but I haven't talked to her after that yet.

You should make sure she is okay with it.